I think I fixed it. Took the chain off (by the way is the power link from sram "re-usable"?!) and was taking pictures to send to sram and ask if the angle of the cage is off or this their yaw approach when I I thought aligning an angled jokey upper wheel with a "parallell" cassette Is just not possible, and took in consideration only the upper half of the jockey wheel and aligned the "travel" the chain would give to the cog then set the limit screw.
Apparently it worked! Healthy almost 2mm of space, smooth shifting (after some additional micro adj especially at the 11 teeth cog).
Now of course let's see how it will behave when under actual road torque pressure....need to wait for the hangers first, and c'mon why would be written on the hanger 2nM and on an updated manual dated 3 weeks ago 1.5nm...
Thanks for all replies, I'll provide an update as soon as I ride it!
Now off to skiing